7 Surprising Things You Never Knew on How to Think Effectively ...

If you’re having trouble concentrating while you’re at work or when you are studying for your finals, just read on and discover a few surprising things you never knew about how to think effectively. There are quite a few tricks that can improve your focus, your ability to assimilate new information and even your desire to dedicate yourself one hundred percent to reaching your goals. It doesn’t really matter if you’re brilliant or that you have a lot of experience, you just need to work hard and have enough patience, because you won’t see any spectacular results overnight. Everyone can learn how to optimize their brain function, since effective thinking is a habit that can be practiced and developed over time. A lot of studies actually show that IQ levels can rise and fall throughout the day, depending on a large variety of factors and events. So, here are a few very useful things you can do if you want to learn how to think effectively:

1. Reverse Negative Core Beliefs

One of the best things you can do if you want to learn how to think effectively is to identify and reverse negative core beliefs. We are all influenced by our past experiences and we all worry about our future, yet we shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves. We should pay attention a little bit more to all those things that make us feel special, that help us stand out from the crowd. Phrases like “I’m not good enough,” or “I don’t deserve this” should not be present in your vocabulary.

2. Get Enough Sleep

If you want to think more effectively, you definitely need to get enough sleep at night. Experts say that “sleep allows the more intuitive right side of the brain to work on whatever problems have been troubling your more logical left side during the day,” and that’s why it’s important to get enough sleep, especially when you have to make a big decision. Sleep will provide you with moments of insight and you will get all the answers you need in order to make the best decision.

3. Use The Right Words

You do know that powerful words trigger powerful thinking. Just try to always use the right words, so you’ll be able to reach all your goals and fulfill all your dreams. For example, instead of saying “I’m going to be good at this,” or “I will do it,” you could say “I will master this technique,” since “master” is a much powerful word that will help you be more successful.

4. You Are What You Think

A lot of studies have shown that your thoughts have a big influence on your emotions and on your behavior, so you could say that you basically are what you think. I’m not saying it’s easy to think in a more positive way, but with a bit of practice and a lot of patience, you will learn how to use the power of your thoughts to help you reach your goals. Try to think of ways that steer you towards success, and thinking more effectively will not be a problem for you anymore.

5. Always Look for The Lesson in Every Situation

Even if you fail or win something, you should always look for the lesson in every situation. Even if those events really affected you, and not necessarily in a good way, try to see past the pain and view that entire situation as a learning opportunity. Try to find happiness in everything, no matter how small or insignificant that particular thing might seem.

6. Don’t over-analyze Things

Try not to over-analyze things, since thinking too much can cause stagnation. I’m not saying that when you’re making an important decision, you shouldn’t analyze all the facts very carefully. Just try to transform your thoughts into actions and trust your instinct sometimes, because if you wait too long, your chance might pass and you will regret it afterwards.

7. Focus on The Present

Always focus on the present! Don’t dwell on your past, don’t worry about the future and simply focus on the now! Right now is all that matters. Don’t let your past experiences dictate your actions, act the way you feel now! Trust you instinct and your judgment and don’t doubt yourself so much!
Thinking more effectively is not an easy task but with a bit of determination and a lot of patience, I’m sure you’ll master this skill in no time. Do you think in an effective way? How do you do it? Do you know any other useful tips on how to think effectively? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!

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The child and his mother

A curious child asked his mother: “Mommy, why are some of your hairs turning grey?”
The mother tried to use this occasion to teach her child: “It is because of you, dear. Every bad action of yours will turn one of my hairs grey!”
The child replied innocently: “Now I know why grandmother has only grey hairs on her head.”

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7 Tips on How to Build Trust When You're in a Long-Distance Relationship ...

If you and your partner live a couple of hours or even two time zones apart from each other, you should learn how to build trust when you’re in a long distance relationship. . Long-distance relationships do create extra challenges and stressors and you might have to overcome quite a lot of difficult obstacles, but if you trust each other, you can cultivate a very happy and fulfilling relationship. Here are a few very useful tips on how to build trust when you’re in a long distance relationship.

1. Don’t Keep Secrets

One of the most important things you should do if you want to know how to build trust when you’re in a long distance relationship is to never keep secrets. They will only make you doubt each other. I’m not saying you should tell your partner right from the start your deepest and darkest secrets. Just make sure you don’t hide important information, since this could really damage your relationship.

2. Make Sure Your Words And Actions Match

To build trust in your long-distance relationship, make sure your words and actions always match. For example, if you say that you are going home to call your partner at a certain hour, then make sure you do that. If you can't be there on time, send them a message and explain. This shows you are an honest person who has nothing to hide and who always keeps their promises.

3. Be Realistic

Try not to have unrealistic expectations when you’re in a long-distance relationship. It’s not always easy to make a this kind of relationship work and you need to accept the fact that you might have to overcome a lot of obstacles and face all kinds of difficult challenges to be happy. You must be prepared to handle the distance and you must be willing to make a lot of sacrifices if you want your love to prevail.

4. Communicate Every Day

When you’re in a long-distance relationship, it’s extremely important for you and your partner to communicate every day. Even if you don’t enjoy talking on the phone or sending texts, make sure you make the time to do it, since communication is the key to a happy and fulfilling relationship. I’m sure you have a lot of beautiful things you can share with each other, so why not do it more often?

5. See Each Other Regularly

Always find a way to visit each other regularly. Don’t let anything separate you and work on your trust issues, so that nothing can come between you. Schedule your days off in order to match your partner’s free time and decide who will visit whom and how often.

6. Surprise Your Partner

What better way to strengthen your relationship than by surprising your partner on a regular basis? If you have the possibility, you could make them a spontaneous surprise visit.. You will be there by their side and this way; the distance that usually separates you will not seem like such a challenge anymore.

7. Have Faith in Your Partner

Even if this may seem a bit hard to accomplish sometimes, have faith in your partner and if they tell you that they are doing a certain thing, then believe them and take their word for it. I’m sure you do know that everyone is innocent until proven guilty. So, if you don’t have any reasons to question what they’ve told you, control your jealousy and don’t let doubt cloud your judgment.
A long-distance relationship requires a lot of hard work, but if you are willing to make a few small sacrifices just to keep your love intact, then distance will not stand in the way of your happiness. Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship? How was it? Do you know any other tips on how to build trust in a long-distance relationship? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!

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Don’t Hope,… Decide!

While waiting to pick up a friend at the airport in Lagos, Nigeria, I had one of those life-changing experiences that you hear other people talk about — the kind that sneaks up on you unexpectedly. This one occurred a mere two feet away from me.
Straining to locate my friend among the passengers deplaning through the jet way, I noticed a man coming toward me carrying two light bags. He stopped right next to me to greet his family.
First he motioned to his youngest son (maybe six years old) as he laid down his bags. They gave each other a long, loving hug. As they separated enough to look in each other’s face, I heard the father say, “It’s so good to see you, son. I missed you so much!” His son smiled somewhat shyly, averted his eyes and replied softly, “Me, too, Dad!”
Then the man stood up, gazed in the eyes of his oldest son (maybe nine or ten) and while cupping his son’s face in his hands said, “You’re already quite the young man. I love you very much, John!” They too hugged a most loving, tender hug.
While this was happening, a baby girl (perhaps one or one-and-a-half) was squirming excitedly in her mother’s arms, never once taking her little eyes off the wonderful sight of her returning father. The man said, “Hi, baby girl!” as he gently took the child from her mother. He quickly kissed her face all over and then held her close to his chest while rocking her from side to side. The little girl instantly relaxed and simply laid her head on his shoulder, motionless in pure contentment.
After several moments, he handed his daughter to his oldest son and declared, “I’ve saved the best for last!” and proceeded to give his wife the longest, most passionate kiss I ever remember seeing. He gazed into her eyes for several seconds and then silently mouthed. “I love you so much!” They stared at each other’s eyes, beaming big smiles at one another, while holding both hands.
For an instant they reminded me of newlyweds, but I knew by the age of their kids that they couldn’t possibly be. I puzzled about it for a moment then realized how totally engrossed I was in the wonderful display of unconditional love not more than an arm’s length away from me. I suddenly felt uncomfortable, as if I was invading something sacred, but was amazed to hear my own voice nervously ask, “Wow! How long have you two been married?
“Been together fourteen years total, married twelve of those.” he replied, without breaking his gaze from his lovely wife’s face. “Well then, how long have you been away?” I asked. The man finally turned and looked at me, still beaming his joyous smile. “Two whole days!”
Two days? I was stunned. By the intensity of the greeting, I had assumed he’d been gone for at least several weeks – if not months. I know my expression betrayed me.
I said almost offhandedly, hoping to end my intrusion with some semblance of grace (and to get back to searching for my friend), “I hope my marriage is still that passionate after twelve years!”
The man suddenly stopped smiling.
He looked me straight in the eye, and with forcefulness that burned right into my soul, he told me something that left me a different person. He told me, “Don’t hope, friend… decide!” Then he flashed me his wonderful smile again, shook my hand and said, “God bless!”

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Helpless love

Once upon a time all feelings and emotions went to a coastal island for a vacation. According to their nature, each was having a good time. Suddenly, a warning of an impending storm was announced and everyone was advised to evacuate the island.
The announcement caused sudden panic. All rushed to their boats. Even damaged boats were quickly repaired and commissioned for duty.
Yet, Love did not wish to flee quickly. There was so much to do. But as the clouds darkened, Love realised it was time to leave. Alas, there were no boats to spare. Love looked around with hope.
Just then Prosperity passed by in a luxurious boat. Love shouted, “Prosperity, could you please take me in your boat?”
“No,” replied Prosperity, “my boat is full of precious possessions, gold and silver. There is no place for you.”
A little later Vanity came by in a beautiful boat. Again Love shouted, “Could you help me, Vanity? I am stranded and need a lift. Please take me with you.”
Vanity responded haughtily, “No, I cannot take you with me. My boat will get soiled with your muddy feet.”
Sorrow passed by after some time. Again, Love asked for help. But it was to no avail. “No, I cannot take you with me. I am so sad. I want to be by myself.”
When Happiness passed by a few minutes later, Love again called for help. But Happiness was so happy that it did not look around, hardly concerned about anyone.
Love was growing restless and dejected. Just then somebody called out, “Come Love, I will take you with me.” Love did not know who was being so magnanimous, but jumped on to the boat, greatly relieved that she would reach a safe place.
On getting off the boat, Love met Knowledge. Puzzled, Love inquired, “Knowledge, do you know who so generously gave me a lift just when no one else wished to help?”
Knowledge smiled, “Oh, that was Time.”
“And why would Time stop to pick me and take me to safety?” Love wondered.
Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and replied, “Because only Time knows your true greatness and what you are capable of. Only Love can bring peace and great happiness in this world.”
“The important message is that when we are prosperous, we overlook love. When we feel important, we forget love. Even in happiness and sorrow we forget love. Only with time do we realize the importance of love. Why wait that long? Why not make love a part of your life today?”

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Joke of the day...

A three-year old walks over to a pregnant lady while waiting with his mother in a doctor’s surgery.
“Why is your stomach so big?” – he asks.
“I´m having a baby.” – she replies.
“Is the baby in your stomach?” – he asks, with his big eyes.
“Yes, it is.” – she says.
“Is it a good baby?” – he asks, with a puzzled look.
“Oh, yes. A really good baby.” – the lady replies.
Shocked and surprised, he asks: “Then why did you eat him?

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Enjoy Your Life At Every Moment

Once a fisherman was sitting near seashore, under the shadow of a tree smoking his beedi. Suddenly a rich businessman passing by approached him and enquired as to why he was sitting under a tree smoking and not working. To this the poor fisherman replied that he had caught enough fishes for the day.
Hearing this the rich man got angry and said: Why don’t you catch more fishes instead of sitting in shadow wasting your time?
Fisherman asked: What would I do by catching more fishes?
Businessman: You could catch more fishes, sell them and earn more money, and buy a bigger boat.
Fisherman: What would I do then?
Businessman: You could go fishing in deep waters and catch even more fishes and earn even more money.
Fisherman: What would I do then?
Businessman: You could buy many boats and employ many people to work for you and earn even more money.
Fisherman: What would I do then?
Businessman: You could become a rich businessman like me.
Fisherman: What would I do then?
Businessman: You could then enjoy your life peacefully.
Fisherman: Isn’t that what I am doing now?
Moral – You don’t need to wait for tomorrow to be happy and enjoy your life. You don’t even need to be more rich, more powerful to enjoy life. LIFE is at this moment, enjoy it fully.
As some great men have said “My riches consist not in extent of my possessions but in the fewness of my wants”.

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